This is one of those issues where it really depends on the person. Weights can be a good alternative to tapers because it’s done over time rather than all at once. So if you always have a hard time when trying to go up to the next size this might be an attractive option for you. The only downside to weights is they can cause thinner tissue at the bottom of your earlobe or migration.
Tapers are also probably the most common way to stretch your ears. This is only an effective way if you wait long enough between each stretch to make sure the love is completely healed. If you do it top fast this can lead to tearing or migration. Never stretch more than one inch a year.